From American Library Association's
(ALA's)Choice magazine: "In
a word, this book is powerful! ...Even those who read a great deal on
the subject of trauma will be shaken by this book. And because of its
raw honesty and integrity, Unspeakable Truths and Happy
Endings will be one of the important books written
on trauma in this decade, belonging in the same category with Judith
Herman's Trauma and Recovery." (Choice
named the book one of the outstanding academic books of 1998.)
From Independent Publisher:
"At times the unspeakable truths of Coffey's inquiry into survival by
victims of the violence of crime, domestic abuse, and war threaten to
eclipse this health writer's conditionally optimistic prognosis of-if
not happy endings-then at least the possibility of healing. Some
readers, undoubtedly, will be repulsed by the nature of these
revelations about homicidal encounters, sexual assault by family
members and strangers, and the horrors of the Vietnam War and the
Holocaust.However, that reaction illustrates precisely what the author
considers the unfortunate revictimization of trauma survivors by even
those closest to them and therapists, due to natural defenses against
accepting our vulnerability to such brutal realities. Even a Holocaust
survivor whom the author interviewed in a writing class expressly for
such individuals admits that had he heard his own stories related by
someone else, he might not have believed them. Coffey contends that her
motivation in writing this well-researched book was to promote personal
and professional compassion, to counter the current trend of
distrusting survivors' tales-due to the controversy over 'recovered
memories' sometimes unwittingly instilled by therapists."
Kenneth
S. Pope, Ph.D., former chair, Ethics Committees of the American
Psychological Association and the American Board of Professional
Psychology: "This is a disturbing book, waking the
reader out of tired assumptions. Neither a mental health professional
nor a survivor, Coffey brings a fresh perspective to a topic too often
ruled by predictable polemics. The accounts are harrowing, and Coffey
has the courage to leave the reader without easy answers. This book is
a valuable resource for those struggling to understand human cruelty
and its consequences."
Danny
Brom, Director of Research of Amcha, The National Israeli Center for
Psychosocial Support of Survivors of the Holocaust:
"This excellent and well-balanced book shows how sensitive listening to
traumatic stories can make them more bearable for the tale teller. The
author's lucid writing and her intelligent sensitivity make Unspeakable Truths and Happy
Endings a most valuable tool for survivors,
friends, family, and even therapistsfor anyone who must come to grips
with their reactions to traumatic events. is an indispensable resource."
Sandra
Bloom, M.D., author of Creating Sanctuary: Toward the
Evolution of Sane Societies; Executive Director, The
Sanctuary, Friends Hospital, Philadelphia, PA: "This
is not a book written from the perspective of the victim or the
perpetrator, or even from the viewpoint of the therapist. Instead, the
reader enters the narrative of a professional writer and we follow her
on a journal of discovery as the unpalatable reality of trauma hits
home. Through her vivid descriptions and interviews we get a sense of
the price she has paid for listening. As she warns us, "trauma stories
are inherently unbelievable" and yet the unfolding of her willingness
to listen, to learn, to grapple with complexity, ambiguity, and horror
provides us with a model of responsible and responsive engagement as
the silent bystander is transformed into an articulate, compassionate,
and committed witness."
From
the American Psychiatric Association's Psychiatric Services:
"Much
of what has been written about trauma and abuse has been written either
by professionals or by survivors. Rebecca Coffey is neither. She is a
professional writer and ... as a writer, Coffey recognizes the power of
language and of well-chosen words to explain, to clarify, and to shine
an illuminating light into dark spaces.... Coffey's honest use of
language is a model for what lies at the heart of trauma recovery work
itself. Learning to call things by their right names and feeling strong
enough and safe enough to see the truth are central to any process of
healing and growth. The experiences and memories of survivors must by
recognized and validated. Yet, as Coffey reminds us, it is difficult
for us to hear the stories that survivors have to tell. We find ways to
look away, to distract ourselves, so that we can avoid seeing the pain
that many survivors carry inside them. Coffey's book is filled with
stories whose authors ask us to bear witness to the horrible,
nightmarish realities they have experienced. Quoting Henry David
Thoreau, Coffey tells us that 'it takes two to speak the truth—one to
speak, and another to hear.'"
Robert
W. Glover, Ph.D., Executive Director, National Association of State
Mental Health Program Directors: "For far too long, the
needs of people with traumatic stress conditions have not been
adequately addressed by the Nation's public mental health system. The
timing of this book is fortuitous, given the current environment of
rapid change offering us unprecedented opportunities to improve on the
ways we serve vulnerable individuals. Unspeakable
Truths and Happy Endings is a timely publication
that provides us with a chance to participate in a new dialogue. We
trust that this book will lead to meaningful differences in the lives
of traumatized individuals by significantly contributing to
improvements in the quality of public mental health care that they
receive."
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